I recommend this book to folks who find self-improvement books useful; to people who might want to explore the difference between shame and guilt; to people who want to know more about how our culture affects all persons. What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? It drives our fears of not being good enough. But no book yet has charted the most accessible and powerful path to grit: our prosocial emotions. In chapter nine she even says that her shame research really breaks down into the power of connection and the dangers of disconnection. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. As mentioned, this book is definitely written about women and for women and the people who support them.
Brené Brown walks us on a path that releases the shackles of inadequacy and leads us to embracing our authentic selves. I don't personally think or feel the things the women in the book seem to and I found it almost degrading to be labeled as having serious shame issues simply because I am a woman. For people wanting to just be better? I would only have liked to hear more on her research on men. However, it is apparent that shame need to be researched and that Brown is the one to do so. I similarly found it nearly degrading to have my identity broken down into such small bits.
The author is pretty much only talking about women's contexts and its often difficult to relate or even remember why I'm listening. It has been life-changing for me. She sources where and how shame occurs and how to escape the immobilizing impact it can have on spirit and heart. The suggestions in this book are powerful, doable, and potentially life changing--no--life improving! I found the tone to be one of assumption from the author, even though I know she had back up research. I am looking forward to reading Dr. She sources where and how shame occurs and how to escape the immobilizing impact it can have on spirit and heart.
Thanks Brene and support team! Though the things that trigger shame are different for men and women, the feelings are the same. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection. I'm afraid this book does not scratch the surface. Stories that would once have only been told in a small circle have the ability to be s I had a friend bring this book over and suggest I read it. It contains many parts that I would just skim in a print book; it has reader exercises that would be more useful in a visual format; and there are parts that I would like to mark, think about, and come back to not ealily done in this audio format. How can we be genuine when we are desperately trying to manage and control how others perceive us? I Thought It Was Just Me is an urgent and compelling invitation to examine our struggles with shame and to learn valuable tools to become our best, most authentic selves. Verbal Judo is the classic guide to the martial art of the mind and mouth that can help you defuse confrontations and generate cooperation, whether you're talking to a boss, a spouse, or even a teenager.
After listening to her, I had to read this book and I was not disappointed. With the internet, cell phones, etc we are able to shame one another at a whole new level. But for those of us crafting our whips of guilt, self-doubt, and worthlessness in private. I have endured a life of despair so intense that even soldiers and medics avoid me. McRaven addressed the graduating class of the University of Texas at Austin on their Commencement day. I went into the book store looking for a good summer read in which I could lose myself.
This book makes a number of interesting and relevant points. Daring Greatly is all the navigation you'll need. These feelings - gratitude, compassion, and pride - are easier to generate than the willpower and self-denial that underpin traditional approaches to grit. Brené Brown offers a liberating study on the importance of our imperfections—both to our relationships and to our own sense of self The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. I believe it had at least a second printing and they must have changed the subtitle. Women experience shame when they are entangled in a web of layered, conflicting and competing social-community expectations. There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate.
Brown has much to teach us about how we deal with life and the possibilities of improving our skills. If you believe that 'shame' is based on how others see you and whether or not you live up to those expectations, this may, indeed, be your book. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together. The book itself is great, a lot of good information and good work in here but the title or subtitle should have said something about the book being specifically relevant for women. Women experience shame when they are entangled in a web of layered, conflicting and competing social-community expectations. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories. Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability.
The major point of the book was that we can't shame ourselves or others into changing. That men go through shame just as much as women do. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what and how we're supposed to be. What makes us vulnerable to shame are the unwanted identities in these areas. She did fine; I've just heard the author in interviews and I prefer the timbre of her voice. This book has already changed me. If I could, I would buy a copy of this for everyone I know.