But I hadn't taken stock of the sheer length of it, the cumulative toll of this ongoing, endless situation. Witchel's rendering of her childhood, Nana, and Passaic will also stay with you. It doesn't matter whether you lose them unexpectedly or quickly or watch them slowly fade away. He just describes how he and his mother loved reading, and read together. She is your mother, but not the mother you knew. Richard Russo's mom was mentally ill, Alex Witchel's mom develops dementia. Witchel wisecracks, 'In our house, it was always the old days.
The miracle of this book is that she's not a parallel miracle: Witchel has written the only book I know of that is at the same time mouth-watering and harrowing. I filled her in on what was happening with Mom, how she was there, but not there. Witchel includes some of her mother's recipes. Schwalbe portrays her as kind, generous and wise. Haunting, unflinching and at times unexpectedly hilarious A powerful affirmation of family bonds. This book by Alex Witchel is honest, heart-breaking and compelling. It will make you smile and even laugh out loud… A powerful affirmation of family bonds, of the soul-sustaining love—and special dishes shared in beloved company—that persist from generation to generation.
Honestly, I half expected to find it dreary and depressing - given the subject was something so close to my own heart,. I had tried and tried and tried to fix her, and I had lost. I never wanted her to be alone. She was also a gifted listener who would quiz her daughter about her day at school — not the simple overview, but every single thing that had happened. In Witchel's case, her mother's dementia is stroke-induced, causing a once brilliant college professor to withdraw from much of life. Anyone who has seen a beloved parent succumb to dementia will identify. Her story is authenti This is both a heartfelt and stinging recollection of Witchel's relationship with her mother and father.
In Witchel's case, her mother's dementia is stroke-induced, causing a once brilliant college professor to withdraw from much of life. The book begins with how Ms. Alex shared some of her most treasured recipes of her mother's meals. Warm and always humane, Witchel's narrative is a poignant, candid reminder of the new normal that now defines so many adult child-aging parent relationships. Review: 'All Gone,' By Alex Witchel Recipes And Memories From A Mother's Illness The traditional mother-daughter dynamic turned on its head for New York Times columnist Alex Witchel in the wake of her mother's struggle with dementia. She gave the same lecture twice, and was forced to retire. It's hard to do that when she's sitting in front of you.
You get the picture perfectly. I did feel rather resentful of it because, look, when I got married, my stepchildren were not toddlers -- they did not need to be toilet-trained, nobody needed a bottle, there were no strollers. Except a good chunk of the time, the author talks about her life, her career, her marriage, which often has nothing to do with her mother or her mother's dementia. My mom is still alive, thank the lord, in reasonable health, but so much of this book reminded me of my mother and I that at time is was very eerie. A strong vein of daughter-mother love and concern is what kept me avidly reading. I worry about how I'll cope when she passes away someday.
It doesn't matter whether you lose them unexpectedly or quickly or watch them slowly fade away. Her mother's discipline, love of truth, and before-her-time independence, along with her top two Commandments May you be brilliant and Tell me everything that happened today were destined to breed a journalist. It will be housed with my special collection for all eternity. No, her mom used Lawry's seasoning. All Gone is packed with sentiment. But when Barbara Witchel begins losing her mind, her daughter takes on the burden of her care.
I actually enjoyed this book more than I expected to. Alex Witchel has given us a beautifully written, loving and heart wrenching memoir of her mothers life before and during her slowly progressing dementia. Good old fashioned, mother approved, yummy comfort food recipes or 'refreshments' according to the cover. It is a story of finally accepting that life as you have known it is gone, feelings I witnessed my own mother having while caring for her on hospice. I could be wrong but I think most of us probably have specific memories of food that our mothers made that are our comfort food. If she had died, it would be easier to grieve the loss. Each has been better than the last and thankfully, All Gone followed that pattern as well.
Will it leave you satiated? I made the meatloaf around July 4, and it was so good. And she was inspired to turn her experience into this frank, bittersweet, and surprisingly funny account that offers true balm for an increasingly familiar form of heartbreak. Is All Gone worth reading? As Alex says, gone but not gone. I read this partially in fear of what I might have to go through. I decided to finish it as parts reminded me of my mother and I am so glad I did.
A heartfelt book about a daughter, who was exceptionally close to her mother, and the mother who had sufffered a series of small strokes and whose memory was slowly eroding. Schwalbe learned that his mother, Mary Anne Schwalbe, had pancreatic cancer. She shows us that despite profound loss, we can nourish ourselves with memories that sustain love and give comfort. So it was very easy for me to relate to the author with her plight to seek out and provide the best care available for her mom. My mom embodies so much: family, traditions, home. Witchel expresses her feelings so openly. She is your mother, but not the mother you knew.